Women fall in love with a man because of his character. Women also stay in love because of the man’s character. As men, our character should not change simply because we are now officially “in a relationship.” The truth is, you can lose the woman by doing so…quickly.
It is our duty, as men, to be upright and honest in everything that we do. Not just in a relationship, but outside of it. It goes without saying that your woman deserves a man with such traits of honesty and goodwill.
This article discusses 20 things a man should stop doing in a relationship. This notion assumes that you still indeed love the woman. Bearing this in mind, it is important to cease character-damaging behavior before it’s too late.
Top things every man should never do in his relationship
1.) Don’t underestimate the importance of your partner’s work.
Whether your partner is a stay-at-home mom or a full-time office worker, don’t neglect to recognize their hard work.
There’s no perfect boyfriend, especially when it comes to relationships. You must accept whatever comes with the whole package. But of course, as a man, there are some actions and some lines that you should never ever cross. Below is a list of ten hurtful things that men should never do or should stop doing in a relationship
2.) Cheat on her.
The number one mortal sin on every woman’s list. You should never cheat on your lady love. You could count off every excuse in the book but it will never justify this horrible action. Be responsible enough to secure yourself before going into a relationship.
If you’re unsure of the reasons for your actions or you’re thinking of doing this, then stop yourself right there and come clean to your girlfriend. It’s always better to be honest with her than to go behind her back. Although it will hurt her at first, finding someone else without telling her will hurt her even more.
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3.) Lie to her face.
Never lie about the little things because if you can do this, it would be much easier for you to lie about the big things. In fact, why lie in the first place? Relationships are built on trust and transparency with no room for lies.
It’s acceptable to make mistakes at first, but if you keep repeating them and apologizing for the same things over and over again, then it’s a different story. You might be lying to yourself this time instead of your girlfriend. Take some time to think about why you’re in this relationship in the first place.
4. Ignore her feelings.
Your girlfriend is there for a reason. She is your best friend, confidant, and the love of your life. She isn’t a blank wall you can talk to whenever you feel like it. She is a human being and her thoughts and feelings matter.
Every relationship is a two-way street and it’s not always about you. Respect her and her opinions, listen to her, and never ever ignore her feelings nor discount them as being irrational. It takes two to make love work, so make sure that her voice is always heard.
5. Hurt her heart.
A true man never hurts her woman, physically, emotionally, or mentally. He would never dare to lay a hand on her skin, spat a hurtful word at her, or play mean tricks with her feelings. Unfortunately, there are a lot of men who are like this, so don’t be one.
If you find yourself having a short temper during fights, then practice your patience by counting to ten, shutting your mouth, or asking for some personal time. It’s better to think things over first before you let actions or words fly that you will really regret later on.
6. Degrade her as a person.
This is a cruel act that many people do and they oftentimes do this subconsciously or without being aware of it at all. Degrading your girlfriend can come in different ways. If you make fun of her dreams, nitpick on her actions, or insult her personality, you are already degrading her.
One might argue: but I’m only teasing her. There is a fine line between teasing and being downright mean. If this doesn’t make her laugh, then it’s not alright anymore. You are not only damaging your relationship, but you are also destroying her self-esteem and confidence.
7. Be unsupportive.
As a boyfriend, you are supposed to be her number one fan. There isn’t an excuse in any book that would account for missed anniversary dinners, unattended birthday parties, or unanswered phone calls. When you decide to be in a relationship, you agree to be there during the important moments.
Remind yourself to always be there for your girlfriend, no matter how mundane the event might be for you. You should hold her hand and make her feel important. Lift her up on your shoulders and make her feel like she can actually reach the sky.
8. Treat her as an option.
A lot of people date for fun, but oftentimes, this kind of approach will leave a string of broken hearts. If you decide to be in a committed and loving relationship, then obviously you can’t treat your girlfriend as just another option.
You can’t go and meet other women and then come back to her when they drop you. You can’t spend time with her after asking everybody else and knowing that nobody else is available. You can never ever make her feel as if she’s just a choice.
9. Make her as your safety net.
Some men stay with their girlfriends because they feel like she is the safe choice. They know that if they stay with her, they are guaranteed a happy, loving, and secure wife for the future. If you’re one of these men, then you’re making the biggest mistake of your life.
This unselfish action is totally uncalled for and will do nothing but hurt your loved one. Your girlfriend is not a safety net, she is not a Plan B if everything else goes wrong, and she is definitely not someone you can just choose if you want to.
10. Does not take her seriously.
If you don’t take your girlfriend seriously, then maybe you should why yourself why you’re in a relationship in the first place. Never be that horrible guy who mocks her for being true to herself and brings her down when she’s doing things to improve herself.
Women are already facing incredibly ridiculous issues from the whole world, she doesn’t need that from her boyfriend. Instead, you should support her and even pave the way for her to be successful.
11. Break your promises.
The last thing a man should never do in a relationship is to break his promises. If you can’t keep your words, then don’t say it. You should never make your girlfriend hope for something, only to be hurt later on because you can’t keep track of your promises.
Repeated broken promises are even worse. This is a sign of immaturity and lack of sense of responsibility. As a loving boyfriend, it is your duty to say words that ring true to your heart.
Women don’t expect you to be as perfect as the guys they see in romantic soap operas, but it never hurts to take tips from those role models. Life isn’t a fairytale and not every guy is a Prince who’ll charm you off, but if there’s one thing that’s sure, is that the world needs more loyal gentlemen, and if you follow these tips, you can be one of them.
12.) Don’t go straight for the couch after getting home.
This is such a common behavior for us men! We have a long day and can’t wait to flop onto the soft cushions of our couch. If she’s home, give her a kiss and ask about her day.
13.) Don’t put work before your partner.
Many men take it upon themselves to provide the best possible life for their partner. While this is admirable, don’t allow your work to distract you from what’s truly important.
14.) Don’t pretend to be listening when you’re not.
“uh…uh-huh…sounds good.” Meanwhile, you didn’t listen to a word that she said. Maintain eye contact, engage in conversation, and show her that you’re really good listener.
15.) Don’t become a closed book.
When life gets difficult, it’s so easy for us to just shut down. But us men have to remember that someone is depending on us to be physically and mentally present.
16. Don’t critique or criticize your woman in front of others.
When there’s tension between you and her, it’s important to remain calm and collected. Don’t allow yourself to say something, especially in front of others, that you may come to regret.
17.) Don’t preemptively mention “breaking up/divorce”
Breaking up is serious, and divorce even more so. These words should never be muttered in haste. Doing so can even end a salvageable relationship.
18.) Don’t procrastinate with your household duties.
If it’s your responsibility to take out the garbage after dinner, do it. If you said you’d clean the garage this weekend, do it. Be a responsible man around the house.
19.) Don’t forget to communicate your whereabouts.
Communication is the backbone of any relationship. When a man doesn’t clue his woman in on where he’s going or what he’s doing, it’s incredibly disrespectful.
20.) Don’t purchase anything major without first discussing it.
Oh, you want that new tv? Is that new suit catching your eye? That’s cool. What isn’t cool is purchasing something costly without first discussing it with your lady.
21.) Don’t hone in on other women for too long!
Beautiful women are almost irresistibly eye-catching. A first look – even a short “trail” – is natural. However, it’s probably best to check your woman-watching in front of your woman.
22.) Don’t force her to make all the important decisions.
Not all decisions can be made together, for whatever reason. However, when it comes to something significant (e.g. Your kids, the house), you must be willing to expend some brainpower and help with the decision.
23.) Don’t react impulsively while arguing.
This one spells (unavoidable) danger. When our temper rises, we have a tendency to allow our brain to check out. This can lead to hurtful words being uttered without thinking. Allow yourself to cool down.
24.) Don’t take advantage of her kindness.
One reason you probably fell in love with your woman is her sweet nature. Women can be very caring and generous; but this doesn’t give you the right to take advantage. Reciprocate kindness, as well.
25.) Don’t forget to plan an evening out, on occasion.
Gosh, it just seems that we’re so busy all the time. When we’re home, it can be so tempting to want to just “netflix and chill.” This is cool most of the time, but don’t forget to add novelty by taking her out on the town on occasion.
26.) Don’t expect her to tend to your every need.
Somewhat related to #15, it is important to not anticipate her meeting your every need. As men, we must take it upon ourselves to be responsible. This means caring for ourselves, in many ways, like we did before we met her.
27.) Don’t accuse her of anything without evidence.
This one is another potential back-breaker. Accusations, especially of the serious kind (e.g. Cheating) can irreparably damage a relationship. Make sure you have clear evidence of the offense.
28.) Don’t insult her male friends.
Odds are she probably has a male friend or acquaintance that may rub you the wrong way. You can verbalize these concerns without insulting her social circle.
29.) Don’t attempt to control her.
As partners, you should both understand that time apart is both healthy and necessary. When she tries to have a night to herself, let her without becoming a master.